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Safe Dating online: Better safe then sorry

Safe Dating online : Better safe then sorry

by JOHN ALLMON

Searching for a date can be as simple as turning on your computer, but if you are not careful you could end up with your heart broken or something far worse. You have to be safe in any dating situation but online dating opens up more of the world to you, exposing you to a wider group of people. The more people that you meet, the bigger the odds that you will run into a bad apple or two in the barrel, You simply cannot go off uninformed. It’s a big bad world out there and the Internet brings it right into your own home.
 
First things first; know who you are tailing to. Meeting someone in a public chat room for a computer is on how meeting that person in real life is entirely different. If you feel that this might be the one for you proceed with extreme caution Never give a stranger your full name or your home address. Give only your cell phone number if you are giving the number at this point at all. Do not get drawn or bullied into the quiet night at home idea for a first date. If that is the only acceptable idea for him stop talking to him and block him from further contact.
 
Make sure to let one person knows where you are going when whom you are going out with. Let them know where you are and when to expect you home. Make sure that you have your cell with you and chick in with your friends often. Tell you date upfront you need to touch base with friends because they are worried about you. If he is a decent human being he will understand, if not you might consider ending the date right away.
 
A better and usually safer option to prowling the chat rooms are the dating sites there are endless sites available some are better than others look around and check out the features before you sign up, there are a few dating sites where membership and all of its benefits to women so research and can save you quite a bit of money. Once you have joined and found your matches, remember, the same rules apply for safety.
 
Some people are uncomfortable with a Google search for their dates, some will not even consider a date without one. A background search from a reputable site is your best bet. Some sites offer a yearly fee and you can have as many searches as you need, if you are going to be doing a lot of dating you should definitely look into these sites.
 
It is always best to know at least a little bit about your date. always know the warning signs and have an escape planned if the date goes sour. I know a girl that has a code work for an awful date she calls and announces that she has an emergency and she must go, for this reason, and for added safety do not get into a car with someone you do not know. Take separate cars even if the date is going well and you decided to continue onto a second location, tell him that you will follow him and do not take nor for an answer. A well-mannered man will not want you to be uncomfortable nor will he allow you to put yourself in a potentially unsafe situation. Know your fate a keep it public. Be safe. Use your head.
 
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Internet Dating: How do I choose a service?

Internet Dating: How do I choose a service?

by JOHN ALLMON

1) General Online Dating Services
 
General online dating services comprise the lion’s share of the marketplace and hold the highest market share. These services give you full access to their member database. You sign up and can immediately browse any profile you want to find. Some services will offer optional tests, quizzes, or guides to help you come across what you’re looking for, but you always have the choice of expanding your search to as wide as you want. Such sites are: Match.com, Yahoo! Personals, LavaLife, American Singles, Udate, and FriendFinder.
 
2) Relationship Services
 
Relationship services were created to assist people who are more serious about finding a “soul mate”. Generally, these services target ‘marriage-minded” people. Relationship services oblige you to fill out an in-depth personality profile that usually takes sometime between 30-90 minutes to complete. Your answers are then used to analyze what type of people you are most compatible with. The service then presents you with only those matches. Not like in General Online Dating Services, you can’t gain access to everyone’s profile except only for those the service finds you best match up with.
Such sites are: eHarmony and Chemistry.com.
 
 
3) Social Networking Sites
 
Social networking sites offer a way to connect and stay in touch with old friends while making new ones. They are also developing into an increasingly more prevalent place to meet people to date.
Such social networking sites are: MySpace, Friendster and Orkut, some minor sites include: Tagged, Facebook and Multiply.
 
4) Niche Online Dating Services
 
Niche online dating services are emerging everywhere. These services look for one common factor that people must share in order to be a part of the service. Some examples would be; CatholicMatch.com, which is a site for people who are catholic. AnimalAttraction.com is for pet lovers. There are apparently hundreds of such sites aimed to connect people who share a specific passion or belief.
 
5) Merging Online Dating Services
 
This is the newest type of online dating service, which combine aspects of the offline and online dating environment. Some of these new services allow you to put a profile on their Website then print cards with your handle name/username and the site URL. When you come across someone interesting you can give them one of these cards and they can then learn more about you online then get in touch with you through the service. In years to come or even in months, you’ll see many more Merging Online Dating Services hitting the market, trying to more closely connect the offline experience with your online experience.
 
How to Do it Safely
 
When dating online, you must take a lot of extra precautions. One should always proceed cautiously when meeting someone online for the first time. Do not give away any of your important personal information which includes addresses, workplace, home phone number and especially financial information. Before meeting an online acquaintance in person, speak with him or her on the phone first. If they seem aggressive, controlling, or angry, then do not accede to meeting them in person. If you do plan a first date, always make it in a public place, and be certain to tell family members and friends when and where you are going. Remember, no matter how trustworthy a person may seem, if they ask you for money or any financial information, immediately stop all communications with them.
 
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What is internet dating, anyway?

What is internet dating, anyway?

by JOHN ALLMON

The Guide to Internet Dating
 
Internet Dating or online dating is a dating system which allows individuals to congregate online through the Internet via a certain program or website, and possibly develop a romantic or sexual relationship.
 
There are also Internet dating services which provide un-monitered matchmaking through the use of personal computers or even cell phones. Such services normally allow people to provide personal information, and then search for other individuals using a criterion such as age range, gender and location. Most sites allow members to upload their own photos and browse the photos of others. Sites may offer additional services, such as webcasts, online chat, and message boards. Some Sites allow people to register for free but may offer additional services which require a monthly fee.
 
Many sites are broad-based, with members from a different variety of backgrounds looking for different types of relationships and interactions whilst other sites are more specific, based on the type of members, interests, location, or relationship desired.
 
Nowadays many people are turning to Internet dating services to increase their chance of meeting someone new. You should compare monthly fees and check if you can do a free trial before you join or make any major commitments.
 
Once you start, decide on how much personal information you are going to give out about yourself, and how many people you are willing to communicate with on an ongoing basis. Keep in mind, online dating is still dating and it takes time to get to really get to know someone. If you are actually interested in anyone, shift from the Internet exchanges to phone calls then eventually to that first in-person meeting, and make sure it will be in a public location. This is a very important safety precaution that you should always take into account.
 
While baffling to many beginners, meeting other people through the Internet is in fact quite easy, as well as inexpensive, widely accepted, and about as proficient as you can get short of ordering somebody out of a Macy’s catalog. The Internet is also about as democratic as you can get—young, old, gay, straight, fat, thin, red, blue, rich, poor—everybody’s out there.
 
But there’s an art to it. First, you have to know which site will best help you find the type of person you want to meet as dating sites also have personalities, just like people do. You have to learn the vernacular and package yourself appropriately and there are some sites that help singles create a fantastic profile with amazing photos. You also have to learn how to swiftly and proficiently tell the difference between the fakes and the real ones, because there are a lot of internet dating sites out there that are just in it to get your money.
 
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Different types of dating

Different types of dating

By JOHN ALLMON

There are different types of dating, and here are some of them:
 
Regular dating. Two people or a couple get together for an activity.
 
Double dating: two couples get together for an activity.
 
Group dating: an activity shared by two or more couples.
 
Blind dating: a date where the participants have not met each other personally before, and is usually set up by a third party.
 
Long Distance dating or Holidating: because of a long distance relationship, dating only when one or both parties are on holiday or vacation and are only together during that time.
 
Aside from the different types of dating, there are also systems for organized dating:
 
Online dating: Instead of using conventional matchmaking, online dating uses specially targeted websites to meet new people.
 
Speed dating: Where a group of people gets together for several hours in a certain place to get to know one another. At one of these speed-dating events, each person customarily sits with another single member for a fixed period of time to get to know them better, and then at the pre-set time, is asked to move and sit with someone else to repeat the same course of action.
 
Mobile dating/cell phone dating: Where text messaging and video calling to and from a mobile/cell phone carrier are used to show interest in others on the system. It can be web-based or online dating as well depending on the company used.
 
Virtual dating: A mishmash of video game playing and dating, where users make avatars to represent themselves in a virtual world in an effort to meet other avatars with the intention of meeting for probable dates.
 
Singles events: Where a group of singles is brought together to join in a variety of proceedings for the purposes of meeting new people. Such events can include things like parties, workshops and games.
 
 
When you meet your date, don’t jump to assumptions right away. You might think of something else or form an image in your mind, which is dissimilar from the real person; this is not their fault, so give them a chance. It’s normal to feel awkward at first, just relax and try not to think on the outcome. It’s not important if they like you or not, you should just try to enjoy the date. Remember that they are also nervous like you and they also hope that you will like them.
 
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Advancing your relationship

Advancing your relationship

by JOHN ALLMON

If you were happy with the first date, keep seeing each other for some time before moving further. Don’t proceed too fast; you must really get to know one another before choosing to have a relationship of any kind. If the person shares with you a landline phone number or something, that’s a good sign. It shows that they trust you and want to continue the relationship. It’s now up to you to make a decision: whether to say yes to their invitation or not.
 
Most significantly – HAVE FUN, because this is what it’s all about. Some people you will come across will not be what you are looking for, and sometimes, you are not what they’re looking for. But if you persevere, you will be doing better and better. Remember that each encounter, no matter what happens, is a learning experience that can make you more successful in the future.
 
You may meet another person and find your soul mate through an online dating site – just like others that have come before you!
 
 
Speaking of soul mates, there are some ways for understanding how to listen to your soul’s quest of seeking the one that is right for you. Not like what is believed in popular belief, soul mate couples are not usually aware of each other at first glimpse. The person who fascinates our ego is seldom the one our soul profoundly desires to be with, and our soul mate is often the person who looks  unsuitable to our ego.
Here are some Guidelines in finding a Soul mate Relationship:
1. Stop looking at your partner’s faults, and start focusing on your own mistakes and finding ways to correct them.
2. Have some time for yourself and meditate, it is a good way to find your center and listen to your soul.
3. Consider the odds that there is a source of wisdom within you that knows better than you do as to which partner will almost certainly be the one to make you happy.
4. Even if it may seem awfully embarrassing or disappointing, always be willing to face the truth. As the old saying goes, “It’s better to suffer the truth than be rewarded for a lie.”
5. If the relationship is no longer fulfilling, learn to let go. It will be better for both of you in the long run. Know that some people are just not meant to be.
6. Don’t be dismayed just because your efforts to find true love have not succeeded in the past. A new approach may turn out to be a good way to get the results further than your expectations.
7. Stop listening to your ego, and start listening to your soul and your guide.
8. Never be worried to ask for what you really want and don’t settle for less, if it’s not what you want then let it be known for if you let things be as they are, it might prove to be regretful in the long run.
9. Don’t be reluctant in moving forward with your relationship, holding out for perfect certainty may make you lose some opportunities.
 
10. Give your partner every chance to respond, as you trust she or he will. Focus on one relationship at a time, having multiple affairs will just divide your attention to fully understand your relationship with one.
11. Look somewhere else if you’re current partner doesn’t want to share the kind of relationship you have in mind.
12. Know that your soul mate won’t necessarily share your background, or even look the way you imagined them to be.
13. Fate may bring you together with your soul mate over and over again, but it’s up to you to make a decision whether or not to accept and pursue the acquaintance.
14. If you feel hope, don’t act hastily, instead wait patiently to let the true potential of a relationship become clear in their own good time.
15. It is best to avoid those people who make you swoon.
16. It’s wise to proceed carefully when you are blinded by infatuation.
17. True love is never blind; it sees, understands then accepts.
18. Don’t be so confident you can distinguish a potential soul mate with just a glance. You have to truly know someone before you can be sure.
19. Take time to steer away from your ego’s thoughts, in order to get in touch with your soul’s feelings.
20. Calm down, don’t be so eager. You’ll meet your soul mate when the time is right for both of you.
21. Accept no substitutes; remember that your soul won’t be contented with something less than true love.